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Bianca Skye’s Unassisted Childbirth Story

Bianca Skye was born on December 4, 2008 at 7:25PM in a fast, furious and wonderful unassisted homebirth. This is our story.

Why I Chose an Unassisted Homebirth
My first and only birth experience was Brielle’s birth 3 and a half years ago. It was a full medically managed hospital birth despite having chosen a midwife and despite verbal instructions and a birth plan to the contrary. I was induced for no valid medical or scientific reason and both Brielle and I were permanently affected in a number of ways.

That experience changed my life and I began researching alternatives to the standard practice of medically managed births. A whole new world opened up as I learned about homebirth and unassisted childbirth in particular. I cried when I realized that all of our pain and suffering at the hands of a “medwife” could have easily been avoided by simply identifying the pregnancy as low risk, being prepared for some basic contingencies and trusting birth. That is exactly what I did this time around.

Path to 41 Weeks and 4 Days
I visited an OB exactly twice to get some bloodwork done and have an ultrasound at 18 weeks to rule out placental issues that would preclude homebirth. The OB was not aware that I planned an unassisted homebirth the whole time and that I only wanted her as a backup in case I needed a hospital transfer. I let her think that she was getting my whole business. It was a fun game.

In our last meeting I made arrangements for a “natural” cesarean if one were necessary. I made her agree to a lotus birth and to let me hold Bianca immediately and other such requests. She got pretty snippy about the lotus birth and I finally came out and told her that I simply did not trust her to not cut the cord until it was done pulsing so she couldn’t cut it at all :grin: . She was super offended after that and ended our appointment on the spot. Thank goodness I didn’t need her.

The rest of the pregnancy was uneventful. I never had morning sickness or any signs of preeclampsia or gestational diabetes. I stayed healthy, took tons of supplements and felt great up until about 38 weeks when I started to get too big to do anything comfortably. Even at 41 weeks and 4 days when I spontaneously went into labor, I was still quite content to let Bianca arrive on her own timetable despite the growing concerns of people around me. Spontaneous labor was something I was robbed of in the first birth and wild horses could not have dragged me to an induction this time around.

December 4th, 2PM – Labor Begins
I began having contractions that were strong enough to realize I was starting labor but not strong enough to incapacitate me. I also finally had bloody show so I knew that it was the real deal or very close to it. I sent an email to a few family members that I was starting labor but not to get overly excited because the contractions weren’t on a 4-1-1 (four minutes apart, one minute long for an hour) so even if I were a “normal” person I wouldn’t be heading off to the hospital yet anyway.

I was using a website called contraction master which allows you to track your contractions by pressing the space bar at the beginning and end of contractions. From 2-3PM, the contractions were fairly random, sometimes only 30-40 seconds and some almost two minutes. I started losing track of the timing around 3pm because I would stay keeled over on the couch or bed through 2 or 3 contractions so they would be 17 minutes apart when I came back to contraction master.

I was also roaming around the apartment because Brielle was starting to get into things and I was plodding behind her (between contractions) trying to clean up her messes (so I could videotape the birth in a clean apartment) :lol: She had unrolled a couple rolls of toilet paper and overturned some bins of toys. Perhaps she sensed what was happening or just realized that I wasn’t enforcing anything and she could get as wild as she wanted but it was stressful and unnerving given my condition.

I had every intention of blogging, twittering and/or video blogging the birth. It was important for me to record the birth for the benefit of other women looking at alternatives to hospital births. Nothing is more powerful than positive birth stories and videos are the most powerful of all. Unfortunately labor and contractions had a different plan for me.

December 4th, 4PM – Hard Labor
I was sitting on the couch with my laptop and I was in the middle of writing a blog post about the onset of labor and whammo – I was on the floor. It was utterly incapacitating and the beginning of the end. At the end of the contraction I was on all fours on the floor by the couch and had to throw up so fast that I just reached out for a bin of Brielle’s shoes, dumped it over and puked. Thank goodness it was plastic. There was no time to get anywhere. There was no way I could have sat back down to type anything. Blogging sounded great in theory but in retrospect I should have arranged to have someone else twitter for me.

As soon as that major one hit I was on the floor for the remainder of the labor. Brielle and my parent’s dog Sugar were assaulting me on every contraction. Brielle started out being loving and sweet and she would pat my back and hug me through contractions. The dog would lick my face through them. As my “vocalization” increased, Brielle started yelling “MOM! MOM! MOM! MOM!” though them or literally jumping on my back. I was totally helpless to stop them. I finally got an IM to my dad begging him to take those two away because they were trashing the place.

I was crawling around the living room inching my way farther from the front door with each contraction. I had no idea if my neighbors were home but I thought they might not hear me as well if I was toward the inside of the apartment. I finally landed outside the bathroom door which is where I stayed until I delivered.

My dad and mom showed up around 5:30. My dad stuck around with Brielle and Sugar until Brielle announced that there was too much noise (I was really hollering at that point), she put on her jacket and left. I was so relieved. I dearly wanted Brielle to be there for Bianca’s birth but she was making me utterly crazy and not letting me focus and I think seeing me in such pain was making her a little crazy too. There is also the question of how much a 3 year old will remember in the long run anyway.

My mom stayed with me. I have mixed feelings about that because I really wanted to be alone and “go primal” to let my body do whatever it had to do naturally. She totally stayed out of my way but I still knew she was there and I am not sure if I would have birthed differently if I was alone.

That said, she happens to be a nurse who knows how strongly I believe in natural childbirth who also likes me enough to respect my wishes so I can’t think of anyone better to be there if I wasn’t going to be alone anyway. She was kind enough to get me water when I needed it and of course she was ready to take my blood pressure or get a blanket upon request. I would not have been able to do any of that on my own. I also imagine from her point of view, that it was quite an honor to be there for the birth. I also don’t even know if I would have been able to call for help if I had needed it so it was nice having her there in case anything went wrong. I asked her to draw me a bath but I was never able to get in it.

Transition
I was feeling cold before my dad left with Brielle and Sugar so I was laboring on all fours on the floor totally under a blanket. Then I began alternating between being very hot and sweaty and very, very chilled and shaking. I was shaking almost constantly and I wondered if I was already in transition. I also got very tired. I desperately wanted to sleep between contractions which was weird because it was the middle of the day and I had only been in labor for a couple of hours.

I also began to sort of go “out of body”. The pain was so intense and agonizing that I wasn’t able to do anything but vocalize. I sort of began floating above myself as an interested observer during contractions. It was very strange. I was running a commentary on the difference between this birth and Brielle’s and home vs. hospital etc. and sort of observing my own pain levels like I was keeping track on a clipboard. This helped get me through the contractions as well.

I labored on the toilet for awhile and for some reason that seemed to help take the edge off. I arched my back during contractions and it was not as painful as when I was on the floor. Despite that I got back on the floor and under my blanket again. I began pushing during contractions. I had planned on waiting until my uterus pushed Bianca out gently or until I had the “overwhelming urge to push” rather than “forced pushing” but intentional pushing really helped alleviate the pain of the contractions. I was able to focus the pain into an effort if that makes sense.

I began feeling her move down my pelvis during contractions/pushing and then slip right back up at the end. That was really frustrating but motivating at the same time. I asked my mom to grab the box with the birthing supplies and get me a tablecloth and some underpads because I felt a mess coming on with the pushing.

I was still fully clothed during all of this. I was wearing maternity sweatpants with no underwear and a normal maternity top. I have seen hundreds of childbirth videos for my website, research and just my own personal interest and I see lots of women roam around naked for hours in front of people they normally would not get naked in front of. I do not understand that and it doesn’t resonate with me. If my mom wouldn’t have been there I probably would have shucked down but I felt the need for privacy with her there. I also didn’t want her trying to check out crowning or anything because at this birth, I planned on doing all the checking and catching.

As my pushing became more productive, I could feel Bianca moving down the birth canal and it felt like she was going to come straight out my ass. It was the weirdest feeling and I think it kept me from pushing to my fullest. Then I got past that feeling and just began feeling like I was going to split in two. I am not sure which I prefer.

December 4, 2008, Delivery

I kept checking myself during the contractions/pushing for crowning. I was on all fours between contractions but sitting back on my haunches during the pushing which helped her come down tremendously. I could feel an instant difference with the positioning. My water never broke spontaneously and without a doctor or midwife interfering, Bianca emerged “in the caul”, meaning she was still floating inside the amniotic sac as she emerged. Now that was totally weird. As I was waiting for her to crown, I felt her sac coming out instead. It felt like a very strong, plastic water balloon.

I told my mom about the sac and she offered to break it to which I respectfully declined (In reality I probably screamed NO! at her and scared her off). I felt the sac for a push or two and then I gave one great, mighty push and her entire body came out all at once and the sac either broke on that push or as she hit the ground (I did not have a chance to do any catching). There was no head – then rotating – then shoulders like there is in a standard birth. She just came out quite literally all at once. The funny part is that I was still wearing my sweatpants because I didn’t know she would come that fast so Bianca was born in the caul and in my pants. :lol:

She splooshed all over in amniotic fluid and blood and I yelled to my mom “SHE’S OUT! SHE’S OUT!” and my mom came running. While I extricated myself from my nasty pants (which were tossed immediately FYI), she grabbed Bianca and began massaging her to breathe. I was watching with interest but not worried in the least, mainly because I am such a big believer in umbilical cords and I know it can take a minute for babies to breathe sometimes. My mom gave her a couple of starter breaths and she gurgled, coughed, breathed and cried just fine.

In retrospect I would imagine that because she was born in the caul, no fluid was squeezed from her lungs during the trip down the birth canal. She also couldn’t have received all the beneficial bacteria that babies get in the birth canal because she was covered. All that kimchi in the 3rd trimester gone to waste! She also was born with an absolutely perfect head like a cesarean baby. No crowning, no coning I suppose.

The cord was white, thin and limp. I have to assume that the placenta detached either during that last push or right before. I don’t know if having an intact amniotic sac had anything to do with it or maybe it was because her cord was short but that is very, very scary. She was perfectly pink and her heart was beating fine so I think it had just barely detached but any earlier could have had a dramatically different result.

After she emerged, I began bleeding and it seemed like quite a bit so I asked my mom to grab a bowl I had in my birthing supplies to catch/measure the blood. My rule was to transfer if I continued bleeding after 2 cups of blood. My mom was worried about the placenta and mentioned a couple of times that I was bleeding too much and the placenta has “got to get out of there” and that maybe I should “tug on the cord just a little bit”. I have been lecturing her on passive management of the third stage of labor for 9 months and of course she knows how I feel about manual traction but I think her nursing instincts took over all my natural childbirth blather in the heat of the moment. :roll: Needless to say, the placenta delivered very quickly and the bleeding stopped right away. Despite the fact that it looked like a lot of blood, it was only a cup and a half when I measured it.

Clean up was a breeze because almost everything was on the tablecloth or inside the bowl. Once I got cleaned up, everything else went in one kitchen sized garbage bag and I was ready to spend time with Bianca. I cannot describe how wonderful it was to already be at home with her rather than after spending time in an institution.

The placenta remained in a bowl, briefly in the sink before it migrated to the freezer until I decide what to do with it. Brielle and my dad showed up immediately after Bianca was born and Brielle was fascinated with the placenta. She already knew about placentas from homebirthing books and from what I told her about how babies “eat” inside and from seeing the cat give birth. She was pretty excited to see a human placenta and grandpa later commented that it is the first (and probably only) time in his life that a three year old said “Hey grandpa! Come look at the placenta!”

Bianca had a very gentle greeting and has only been in the arms of people who love her and share her DNA. She did not get a rough bath, immediate cord clamping, Hep shot, PKU, eye ointment, bottles, harsh lights, gloved hands or any of the other standard newborn procedures of a typical hospital birth. Her birthing “experience” is much more important to me than my own after all safety considerations have been met.

Bianca nursed like a champ from the get go and has been a ravenous eater for the entire two days since she joined us. She has chubby little thighs and a beautiful round face with silky, dark hair. She has beautiful gray, blue eyes and makes great eye contact, checks things out and coos when she gets boo already.

There are also many legends surrounding being born in the caul, the most notable being that Bianca will be gifted with “special sight” like ESP. Let me know if you are aware of any legends surrounding being born “in the pants”.

Unassisted Childbirth Conclusion
Would I do it again? Absolutely, without question, without a doubt.

Was it everything I thought it would be?
No. It was a lot more painful. I was geared up for a pleasurable or pain free birth because I absolutely believe that is possible. Apparently my uterus believes otherwise. It hurt like hell but it was a totally different kind of pain from what I experienced in the hospital with Pitocin. It was manageable and workable.

Would I consider a homebirth with a midwife?
Nope. Having someone do pelvic exams and talk to me and move me to other positions would have changed the whole dynamic. My mother being in the next room doing dishes or watching TV changed my dynamic. A stranger interfering, touching me, watching me, monitoring me….it would have been awful.

Any other hospital birth epiphanies?
I am much more sympathetic to women who get epidurals. I begged for one with Brielle’s birth (and never got one) but I had massive amounts of Pitocin and I think any woman who has Pitocin should just get an epidural immediately.

Now that I have had a spontaneous, natural birth I can totally understand why women want to relieve the pain. I would never, ever get one for myself because I am acutely aware of the risks to mom, baby and the birthing process, but for women who haven’t researched natural childbirth extensively and who do not fully understand the physiology of birth and who have no clue when the pain will end, I can absolutely empathize with their decision to seek relief.

Will this help you heal from your first birth experience?
I will never forget the first one because it drives me to help others avoid the same fate, but yes, somehow having birth as it is meant to be has been very healing on some level.

Bianca’s Birth Announcement
Bianca’s Pictures

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Sheryl is the CEO/President of A Much Better Way LLC and the natural family living superstore, Betterra.com. Sheryl blogs for fun about ecommerce, eco and kid friendly travel, attachment parenting and anything else that she finds fascinating.

78 Comments

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  2. Laura Shanley · December 7, 2008 Reply

    Sheryl – I’m thrilled for you!! Congratulations!! Your girls are adorable!
    Laura

  3. Sheryl · December 7, 2008 Reply

    Dear Laura Shanley,

    Thanks Laura! I actually have you to thank because it was your website that turned me on to UC in the first place! I almost mentioned your site specifically in the birth story. I am so incredibly grateful to you – you have no idea. :)

    Sheryl

  4. Jamaise · December 7, 2008 Reply

    Good for you. I feel inspired.

  5. jill jacobs · December 7, 2008 Reply

    beautiful story… Congratulations! I’m so happy that you got the birth that you wanted for you and your daughter!

    I too birthed at home, but not UC. My midwife, by the end of my pregnancy, was like family. She didn’t touch me the whole time during labor except to monitor (via fetoscope and at the end underwater doppler) the baby’s heart rate a few times. No cervical checks, etc. She didn’t really talk to me except to encourage me a few times (which I needed :) She was very calming. You just have to find the right one (if you choose to use a midwife at all). Not trying to convince you to use a midwife (if there’s a next time), but just letting you know that all midwives are not intrusive to the birth. I’m just thankful that we have birth choices… now if everyone else would respect them!!!!!

  6. Jana Hirth · December 8, 2008 Reply

    I’m estatic that a new life has been brought into this world in a gentle manor by an empowered mother. I am privilaged to know such a convicted woman to make beneficial choices that in this society that are viewed as out of the ordinary, sometimes “crazy”.

    If I ever have another child I may heavily consider this option.

    Sheryl, you are an inspiration! Your beautiful children are very lucky to have you as their mother.

  7. Sheryl · December 8, 2008 Reply

    Dear Jana Hirth,

    Thank you Jana! That was so sweet :) I hope you and the kids come meet Bianca soon.

  8. Sheryl · December 8, 2008 Reply

    Dear jill jacobs,

    I think there are a lot of women who need the support of other people around whether it is a doula or a midwife and for that reason alone many women would not UC. In my experience it is pretty difficult to find any midwife would will stay totally hands off. You were lucky to find such an understanding and patient woman.

  9. Sheryl · December 8, 2008 Reply

    Dear Jamaise,
    Thanks!

  10. Vamie · December 8, 2008 Reply

    Sheryl,

    CONGRATULATIONS!! check your email. I wrote to you there tooo!!! Kiss the girls for me and give Brie a big hug tooo!!

    Luv Vamie

  11. Summer · January 2, 2009 Reply

    Awesome post, thank you so much for sharing your birth story! I planned an unassisted with my second, but ended up at the hospital. I’m having #3 in April and am once again planning for an unassisted at home. I love reading about awesome mamas who do it so well!

    Summers last blog post..The Queen Of Spain Is Starting It Right

  12. Sheryl · January 3, 2009 Reply

    Dear Summer,

    Thanks! Going unassisted was one of the best decisions I have ever made and probably the most incredible experience of my life. I am so happy to see other women doing it too! I will be checking your blog and cheering for you!

  13. Brandie · January 24, 2009 Reply

    This is a beautiful incredible story – thank you for sharing! I had my son “all-natural” (as much as I could) but assisted at a birthing center. No epidural, no pain killers no nothin, just me and my husband laboring however we wanted and occasionally a midwife (checking-monitoring yes) until the actual birth and then we were assisted because the baby was facing down – they said it’d be easier to birth him if he was facing up so they turned him… I also had a problem with a few blood clots and my uterus not contracting after the birth and had a LOT of bleeding (they almost sent me to the hospital – and they did give me pitocin AFTER he was born to try and get the uterus to contract) bt I am planning a homebirth if there is a next time though, 100%! Welcome Bianca!

    Brandies last blog post..My rolly poly Beebits is on antibiotics!

  14. Sheryl · January 25, 2009 Reply

    Dear Brandie,

    Thank you for sharing your story as well! I just love hearing stories of strong women who have natural births. I love your blog Brandie!

  15. Amy · March 4, 2009 Reply

    beautiful story. we’re planning a freebirth with the next baby (maybe pregnant now, not sure yet) and I love reading birth stories.

    have you ever thought that if you had been in the hospital, you’d probably have been induced for being overdue, stuck on your back with an epidural, and not able to push efficently. just think of how they would have reacted if they’d seen her heartrate drop when her placenta detached. good thing you were alone and upright. I think it’s pretty amazing how your body knew exactly what to do. that baby popped out all at once because that’s the way she had to come in order to survive. very inspiring. :)

    I hope you’re enjoying your newborn.

  16. Sheryl · March 9, 2009 Reply

    Dear Amy,

    Congrats on your upcoming freebirth!! I truly hope it works out for you. It was the most incredible, wonderful, empowering euphoric experience of my life. Three months later I am still “high” from the experience. I would do it again in a split second.

    I have often thought how different the experience would have been if I had been under the care of a “professional”. Just for starters, most “pros” would not have let me get to 41 weeks, 5 days to begin with!! :) Freebirthing is the biggest bullet dodge I know of.

    Good luck to you!

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  19. jane@brighton art · June 2, 2009 Reply

    Wow, you seem so amazingly level headed. I don’t know how you managed to be so in control! Well done.

    janes last blog post..Naked Police to support World Naked Bike Ride-Brighton

  20. Sheryl · June 2, 2009 Reply

    Dear jane@brighton art,

    Thanks!! :) I have done a ridiculous amount of research and reading so I was very well prepared. That helped a lot.

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  22. Charles @ Police Exam · June 14, 2009 Reply

    I really don’t know how you could do a home birth. I know child birth is painful as it is, but to do it at home takes real guts… more than I have.

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  24. bully@cable fence · September 17, 2009 Reply

    Great post I also had a problem with a few blood clots and my uterus not contracting after the birth and had a LOT of bleeding (they almost sent me to the hospital – and they did give me pitocin AFTER he was born to try and get the uterus to contract) bt I am planning a homebirth if there is a next time though, 100%!

  25. Jese@London hotels · November 14, 2009 Reply

    just think of how they would have reacted if they’d seen her heartrate drop when her placenta detached. good thing you were alone and upright. I think it’s pretty amazing how your body knew exactly what to do. that baby popped out all at once because that’s the way she had to come in order to survive.

  26. Jack@DC Divorce Lawyer · December 14, 2009 Reply

    You are very brave! I have a co-worker that did the same kind of thing and I couldn’t believe that people actually still do it that way.

  27. Kirstin@Bali Accommodation · December 14, 2009 Reply

    Sheryl thanks for your story. This is my first pregnancy and i feel so inspired by reading your story. I am curious to waiting this miracle happen :D
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  28. Don Draper@credit card debt elimination · December 27, 2009 Reply

    It’s inspiring to see someone living their convicitons. Although I am not as brave, I do try to do so in my own way.

  29. Dee · December 31, 2009 Reply

    “I let her think that she was getting my whole business. It was a fun game.”

    Gee, I guess you taught that Dr a lesson. Give me a break… :roll:

  30. Ann · December 31, 2009 Reply

    Thanks for writing your story, it is encouraging to me – as I want an UC too.

  31. Angie · January 13, 2010 Reply

    I am so proud of you!! ;-) Few women could do that.
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  32. motocross suspension · January 22, 2010 Reply

    That is so awesome! Congrats. We are so excited for you!

  33. DrMomma · February 2, 2010 Reply

    Absolutely amazing! Thank you for sharing your birth experience in such detail. I am wondering, having been through two very different births, what books you would recommend to mothers who (like you) desire to birth unassisted after having had a hospital birth? What about those who wish to birth unassisted after having had a c/s? I realize this is considered ‘controversial’…but thought you may have some books that you’d offer as suggestions for mothers to be best prepared. As everyone else has said here… CONGRATS! :)

    • Sheryl · February 4, 2010 Reply

      I think everyone who is pregnant, may become pregnant, knows someone who is pregnant, or knows someone who may become pregnant should read Pushed by Jennifer Block and watch The Business of Being Born. Those are just starting places. There are many excellent books on homebirthing, gentle birthing and unassisted childbirth but many women need to wrap their head around the concept of avoiding trouble by avoiding the hospital in the first place before they can start thinking about the benefits of UC. :)

  34. Channah · February 5, 2010 Reply

    What would be a good book for someone who hasn’t read those but it already very wary of doctors? (Not Shanley, she seems like her book would be the kind I couldn’t recommend to my conservative Southern Baptist mom.)

    • Sheryl · February 16, 2010 Reply

      If you want to read about UC then Laura Shanley is pretty much the best place to go. If it is natural childbirth in general then there are a ton of great books. I think Henci Goer is really the best and uses logic, studies and statistics to make the point that natural is almost always better. Ina May Gaskin brings compassion and thousands of births she and the others on the farm have attended and their incredible statistics to prove that natural is better, safer and more humane.

      Other classics are Childbirth Without Fear, Calm Birth, and The Power of Pleasurable Childbirth.

  35. Channah · February 5, 2010 Reply

    Sheryl:
    What would be a good book for someone who hasn’t read those but it already very wary of doctors? (Not Shanley, she seems like her book would be the kind I couldn’t recommend to my conservative Southern Baptist mom.)

  36. my swarovski crystal beads · February 8, 2010 Reply

    beautiful story, very inspirational, so glad people like you with beautiful family have the love to share your stories with us, thank you :)

  37. Horse Racing Tips · February 17, 2010 Reply

    I am privileged to know such a convicted woman to make beneficial choices that in this society that are viewed as out of the ordinary, sometimes “crazy”. Sheryl, you are an inspiration! Your beautiful children are very lucky to have you as their mother.

  38. Roger@the help line · March 16, 2010 Reply

    This is an amazing story and I think that it should be made more widely known that there are alternatives to midwife-assisted childbirth. Thanks for the fantastic read.

  39. Andrea · March 20, 2010 Reply

    Thank you so much for sharing your birth story. I’m a single mom and I’m planning to do a homebirth. So far my plan is to have an unassisted (by medical professionals) birth but I think I’ll have a friend with me in case of an emergency. I’m happy to see that someone in a situation similar to mine, was able to do it. Again, thank you so much for sharing your story.

  40. plastic tablecloth · May 2, 2010 Reply

    personly i went with the c section and i dont regret it one bit..
    very interesting article thanks..
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  42. peggy · May 28, 2010 Reply

    Awesome Story!! I need to put my birth stories on my blog. Basically I had a c/section, then a VBAC like your first and another VBAC in a hospital as close to unassisted as one can get in a hospital.

    You are so much tougher than I am! I would have crawled out of my skin if they hadn’t covered up the %^&*^#@ pitocin with an epidural, and I don’t know how you got back on your haunches to check yourself. I just stayed on hands/knees and figured I’d know when the head was out. I was naked and glad that the doc was there to catch/break the fall, but now that I know the sweatpants trick, maybe I’ll to that next time. I wondered how a baby would fair being born like a baby giraffe…

    Good for you! Great Blog!
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  43. Sabrina@ san antonio maternity photography · June 23, 2010 Reply

    You are one brave mommy!

    With my first baby, I had a normal delivery at the hospital. I did not encounter any problems at all. Labor and delivery were pretty much a breeze for me — compared to the other ghastly birth stories I’ve been hearing from some friends. So, I have no regrets at all and I intend to go through the same process again with my next child.

    I’m sorry to hear about your traumatizing first birth experience. I guess your lucky stars just were not cooperating that day :)

  44. Marmero@Hostgator Discount · July 11, 2010 Reply

    Absolutely amazing! Thank you for sharing your birth experience in such detail. I am wondering, having been through two very different births, what books you would recommend to mothers who (like you) desire to birth unassisted after having had a hospital birth? What about those who wish to birth unassisted after having had a c/s? I realize this is considered ‘controversial’…but thought you may have some books that you’d offer as suggestions for mothers to be best prepared. As everyone else has said here… CONGRATS!

    • Sheryl · August 19, 2010 Reply

      I always recommend Pushed by Jennifer Block and The Business of Being Born (movie available on Netflix instant download). Those are great starting points. You can read Unassisted Childbirth by Laura Shanley but to be honest, I spent more time on her website and forum and never read her book. Anything by Henci Goer and Ina May Gaskin is also excellent for families that are stuck on the medical model.

  45. Nina · July 11, 2010 Reply

    What an INSPIRATION! bless your heart.

  46. kendra@ hearing impaired phones · July 12, 2010 Reply

    ” Wow..! Don’t know how to react to your story but that was very amazing! You are such a brave mom, knowing that giving birth is not as easy as 1-2-3. However, have you thought of any danger about unassisted birth? I don’t think that I would risk my baby’s safety for this one.

  47. James@nail polish racks · July 18, 2010 Reply

    I think brave is an understatement.

    I highly doubt most women would be confident enough to deliver their baby at home without any medical supervision. Seeing as your first go wasn’t the most pleasant, I applaud you for taking the second pregnancy into your own hands.

  48. Chino · July 29, 2010 Reply

    Your story is amazing! Thrilling! I can’t imagine that to happen to my wife, all those preparation, hardship, and just being focused to the situation. This story is a inspiration for other moms. Congrats!

  49. Chino@portrait photography san antonio · August 4, 2010 Reply

    Very inspiring.. You’re one brave mommy. Thanks for sharing us your story.

  50. Karl@portrait photography san antonio · August 6, 2010 Reply

    You’re one brave Mom!:) Tough love!

  51. Holiday cottages cotswolds · August 13, 2010 Reply

    You certainly are very brave, to be honest, after the pain I endured during my first sons birth, I wanted to have all the pain relief I could get second time around and it was a much more pleasant expeirience all round.

  52. Ron from CD Duplication Services · August 17, 2010 Reply

    I am glad to know that you have been delivered your daughter well even though no one assist you in delivering your child.

  53. dlf · September 7, 2010 Reply

    Natural childbirth is much better for the mother. The mother has a completely different experience during birth if she is not drugged – a significantly more fulfilling and beautiful experience. She also feels much more in control of her body and the health of her baby. A women, in the comfort of her own home, will be able to do as she pleases. She will be able to walk around, sit down, eat, drink, take a warm bath and just generally relax. When a woman’s mind is relaxed, she is most comfortable, which means the birthing process will be easier. She will not be on any unnecessary drugs like an epidural.

  54. Terry · September 9, 2010 Reply

    I loved reading your story, Sheryl! It brought back memories of my two unassisted homebirths. One was almost 30 years ago and the second was 8 years ago. There are so many amazing similarities between our births that it can’t be a coincidence. With both of my unassisted births, the babies were born in the sac and both of them arrived in one mighty push. My oldest daughter was here when my last baby was born and she described him as having “shot out”! I seriously wonder if most babies would arrive in the sac if it wasn’t disturbed. My babies had lovely heads, too. Everyone remarked on it.

    I did the same thing you did – I got routine OB care and didn’t inform my doctor of my plans. 30 years ago, it was hard to even find a midwife and birthing at home was almost unheard of – especially unassisted. Now midwives are commonplace here, but freebirth is still regarded as something crazy people do! It’s so nice to hear I’m not the only one!

  55. Michelle · October 5, 2010 Reply

    Thank you for sharing your birthing story Sheryl, it was fascinating and educational. I think I am becoming a birth junkie as I can seem to get enough of unassisted and midwife assisted home births.

    I am not yet a mum and am not even ready to start trying to conceive but I feel so grateful that I can read about experiences like yours and remember that more so with birth than anything else anything is truly possible when you believe in it.

    It is really great to hear about birthing (mainly) all alone, as many stories I have read primarily involved husbands or partners.

    I have a few questions I hope you don’t mind answering… The first is if you tore at all during the rapid caul birth? What did you end up doing with your placenta? Is there anything you would change next time?

    I am still a big believer in painless and pleasurable birth and have read that things such as loving (non medical) labour support, water birth or hypnosis can help. Do you have any opinion on this or other suggestions for me to research further?

    Many thanks in advance

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  58. Narkotest · October 16, 2010 Reply

    Thank you for sharing your story Sheryl. It was very interesting to read the story. I believe in hyponosis as a method to release pain.

  59. alison@stone flooring · November 9, 2010 Reply

    I don’t think I’d take the chance. I admire those women who give birth at home and I know that in most cases it’s very safe (women many years ago wouldn’t have had hospitals and midwives) but for some reason I think I’d feel safer in a hospital.

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  64. Jimmy@Fat farm · January 4, 2011 Reply

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  65. Baby Gates · January 7, 2011 Reply

    i can’t imagine not being at the hospital during childbirth. I’m amazed at your story. It makes me just say wow.

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  67. Treadmill · January 17, 2011 Reply

    Hi.. Sheryl
    It’s really a very interesting story. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. I also think that natural birth is good and herbal medicines should be used during the child birth. Giving a birth to child is one of the most happiest moment that comes in a woman’s life. So, they should be very careful during their pregnancy and should follow doctors advise so that no complications arise during their pregnancy.

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  69. names · February 23, 2011 Reply

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  73. Chelsea · June 3, 2012 Reply

    I just wanted to say that I truly enjoyed reading through your birthing story. I just recently had a baby myself back in April. Her name is Naomi and she is my first. Around 34 weeks I chose to have a home birth, assisted with amazing Midwives who were there more so to coach me than anything. It was such a magical experience that I would do again and again if need be. More woman need to hear these stories. Thanks so much!
    Chelsea recently posted..My Amazing Home Birth (Part 2)

  74. Jessica binion · July 9, 2013 Reply

    Hi! I had a horrible first birth with my daughter Olivia at a military hospital and swore next time to do with a midwife in a tub like I wanted. However as I research more i am more inclined to do a homebirth alone. Can you recommend any books, websites or articles that help you prepare for the birth? Thanks so much!!

    • Sheryl · August 23, 2013 Reply

      Hi Jessica,

      Laura Shanley is a wonderful author and also has a website with loads of information on UC. I highly recommend spending time there. http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com/ Come back and post again if you have your dream birth. :)

      Sheryl

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