My New Computer
My new kick ass laptop
My ex husband did not just beat me, he liked to break my “things” once in awhile too. This is an excellent strategy used by abusive men to terrorize their women.
If the woman is afraid he will destroy her stuff or hurt her pets/kids then she will freeze in terror, walk on eggshells, pretty much do nothing, hoping he won’t do it again.
I had bought a Mac G4 laptop a few months before I met my ex. I LOVED, (I mean loved) that computer. It was fast, sleek and wonderful. In an unprovoked and particularly violent attack, he snapped it in half and then ground his big, heavy shoes into the screen to seal the deal. From an abusers point of view, that would cut me off from the world, from support, from information, from help and of course scare the crap out of me.
This was back in 2003 if I remember correctly. I was not able to replace it while I was with him and I have not been able to buy one since.
After I escaped, a dear friend passed along his old Dell to me which I have used daily and built my entire business with it. I can never express my gratitude for that kind gift because A Much Better Way would not exist today if it were not for his thoughtfulness and generosity.
That said, the computer was outdated and slow and so I finally got a new one. Using some of this years tax refund, I got a refurbished Gateway from CompUsa. It is loaded, was a mere $399 and arrived in literally 24 hours (no joke). I am so incredibly delighted with it. It is fast and efficient and has probably at least tripled my productivity.
The G4 has been on my mind for seven lousy years. Destroying that computer was an incredibly cruel, horrible thing to do. I have longed for that laptop and played the night over in my head repeatedly.
Was it eating me inside? No. Was I still pissed? Yes. Did it teach me a lesson about becoming too attached to possessions? Yes. Should I have kicked him to the curb then and there? Duh.
For some strange reason, the new laptop not only gives me a new business tool, but a somewhat clearer head to carry on with.
January 30th, 2010 at 11:00 am
congratulations, it was really good laptop, and hopefully your life work better and fun
January 31st, 2010 at 7:31 am
wow, I love mac, not because its unique, but its performance is much more better than windows notebooks, again the look is dashing
February 2nd, 2010 at 12:13 pm
Even though I come from a computer background, I wasn’t familiar with the Apple G4 Ibook, or the Macs at all come to think of it. After a protracted talk with my uncle, a computer technician that used to be in love with with IBM, I came to the conclusion that I would get an Apple G4 Ibook. If this professional PC operator recommended a Mac to me, what else is there to say. He now also has an Ibook, and thinks it’s better than his IBM notebook. On top of that, I was persuaded once again by a computer geek at my college, who had just made the switch from PC to Mac, and said he had no intention of going back. This is due in large part to Mac’s simplicity.
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February 11th, 2010 at 7:20 pm
Yay! For new computers! I just got a new one myself. I swear it’s like better than Christmas right? Enjoy!
February 15th, 2010 at 2:48 pm
looks great! i just got a new one last month!!
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February 16th, 2010 at 5:47 am
Yes, the laptop is very good from what I heard. Apple products are of top quality. I hope you’ll enjoy the laptop and use it to maintain and keep up the terrific work with this blog.
February 17th, 2010 at 10:00 am
I am sorry to hear of your misfortunes, but it sounds like you have come out on top in the end!
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February 27th, 2010 at 9:03 am
I can feel your happiness having a new laptop!
My wife will surely feel the same when I bring home my laptop gift to here, just deciding what is best for her
March 5th, 2010 at 3:46 am
Awesome Laptop I love it! Hope I could have my own laptop. When I saw the pic it reminds me of the laptop of my Dad. Sad to say the laptop was damage due to overuse. and Thanks for sharing your picture to us. More power to your site! God bless
March 24th, 2010 at 5:38 pm
I love mac..forever mac..i had two mac in my room,for me its easy to use and many applications….
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April 15th, 2010 at 11:05 am
Awesome Laptop I love it! Hope I could have my own laptop. When I saw the pic it reminds me of the laptop of my Dad. Sad to say the laptop was damage due to overuse. and Thanks for sharing your picture to us. More power to your site! God bless
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April 18th, 2010 at 9:36 am
Thanks for sharing this informational article.
thanks a lot to look forward to continue sharing
April 22nd, 2010 at 8:30 am
I am sorry to hear of your misfortunes, but it sounds like you have come out on top in the end!
May 12th, 2010 at 2:43 pm
You really can be happy to have such a great laptop! And with a Mac you can use Windows and Mac on the same machine. I wish you a very nice time with your new laptop and hope that it never gets broken
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May 15th, 2010 at 12:33 pm
Wow. I can’t believe that your husband actually beat you and destroyed your electronics. It sounds like he was totally heartless and cruel. Good for you for escaping from that monster. I hope you’re enjoying your new G4. Out with the old and in with the new!
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May 20th, 2010 at 10:54 am
thanks for your sharing..I liked this..
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May 22nd, 2010 at 9:56 pm
Great looking laptop. Hope you are proud of it. Well done on kicking that man to the kerb. Nobody deserves that sort of treatment.
July 7th, 2010 at 5:31 pm
I am a big fan of refurbished laptops and happy to see that a reasonably priced older laptop brought you back to the interactive electronic world, even if it wasn’t your trusted G4!
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July 10th, 2010 at 11:49 am
i have a desktop.Its 2years old but i moderate it every month like fixing its parts or including new parts.Although its not new in look but its parts are new which make me feel so much happy.Recently i have changed my LCD to a 20′ Samsung LCD it looks awesome.I refer laptop than desktop but i cant play games in laptop so using the desktop.Your laptop looks great.Dunno about the performance but appearance is awesome.
July 12th, 2010 at 2:52 am
For me the valentine’s day is no so important, I think the anniversary days of the relationship are a lot more important and meaningfull.
August 23rd, 2010 at 8:42 pm
A new computer to get over a relationship huh?
Good idea!
September 2nd, 2010 at 8:35 pm
It’s inspirational to hear how you got out of that abusive relationship, I wish a friend of mine would do the same… wireless pc gamepad